No reply internet dating
Men are looks-driven and I don’t know many who ignore someone who piques their interest. Guys generally don’t ignore emails from women to whom they’re attracted.
For men, it’s probably worth it to take a second shot a month down the road. If he’s not responding the first time, it’s either because he’s not a paying member and can’t read the email, he’s got too many emails in his inbox and will wait till other prospects dry out to get to yours, or he simply isn’t interested.
But then again, there are enough quality women that I don’t see why you’d write to the same uninterested ones twice. I’d maybe try an IM, if you really want to give it a second shot.
As you may know, before I became a dating coach, I was a prolific online dater. Site are just big boxes of single people who are trying to meet each other. If you’ve ever received an email like this, you know it sucks.
Don’t express in your profile that you prefer emails to winks. 2) The fact that he winks instead of taking the time to write to you speaks volumes about him. ” Feel free to ignore anyone who doesn’t meet your criteria, Ynez – including your desire to be emailed – but please, don’t issue demands in your profile. I have two (and maybe even three) answers to your query about sending a follow-up email.
A wink says either that he’s lazy, he’s illiterate, or, more likely, that he’s winking at 50 people at a time to see who responds to him. One set of rules applies to men, another applies to women.
Rather, it’s that, 99 times out of 100, a guy who doesn’t write back to you is a guy who isn’t attracted to you. Because women – especially younger women – receive infinitely more emails than men.
If he is attracted to you but is dating other people, he’ll get back to you eventually, without any additional prodding on your part. Think about it: If a guy is doing great, he might get ten emails – and can manage to respond to the three or four attractive women in his inbox.
Most women are not afflicted with this problem, but it is a real one, especially for the younger set. Oh, should you follow up with an email if you’ve been ignored? It wouldn’t cost much to try, but I don’t think the results will be that great.
If a woman is doing great, she might get 50 emails, or 150 emails, or 400 emails.
Which means that there are definitely some quality guys who don’t get through the first screening process I remember meeting a woman on in 2002.
I wrote about this extensively in and think that if your biggest problem is the volume of the “wrong men” writing, it’s really easy to fix.
Take down your photo or profile and proactively contact men.